Common mistakes made in College
These may not be the types of college mistakes that come to your mind…. but hang in there
I started my undergraduate years full of fears but mostly full of excitement. I could not wait to start my journey in a new place, although it was only an hour away from home. Quickly I realized that this journey was full of so many choices; what to major in, what classes to take, and most importantly… how am I going to afford this (YIKES). It is true when people told me that it would go by so fast, so quick, and that I would soon be left with a diploma and that the rest was really up to me! Looking back at those years I can truly say they were the four best years of my life, but they were also the most confusing. Now at almost 27 years old and more than five years later I realized and wish I did things a lot differently when I was in college. I would not say I have regrets, but I definitely made some mistakes along the way. Here are my top mistakes I made while in college…
The mistakes I made in College
1. Thinking that I knew everything about my field of study and that it would be easy:
I always knew I wanted to study psychology and the Spanish language. I had big dreams of getting my degree then getting a Masters and eventually getting my Doctorate degree. I did not however realize until halfway through my journey that it takes a lot of money, and support. I also did not realize, and no one told me that it would be so hard to get a good paying job with simply a Bachelors degree in my field. This was a reality check! And with this said it is crucial to have a end plan!! Do not wait till graduation day to start thinking about your next step: because trust me your walk across that stage will become the most scariest one instead of the most proud one if you have no real plans.
2. Not joining more clubs or student activities: I felt confused many times while in College. I felt that students around me were not like me. They had money, they had manners I did not; and they even believed in things that I could not relate to. This made me feel very defeated at times and so I focused on other social aspects of college that added to my experience, but not my resume. I also wish I got to know those professors whom I admired so much. They would have been a great asset to my life and my career path.
3. Not involving myself in more volunteering or internships. If you are like me and you have done some college or planned your career, you have now realized that you can have a degree but most employers want to know that you KNOW how to use it too. You can be book smart… but what is written on paper does not always reflect talent or skills in the field. I knew so much, I wrote great papers, I could talk your ear off about psychology, but I did not put it into practice. I limited my abilities by not seeking higher opportunities. I settled for things that were not even in my field of study, simply because they were easier to achieve.
4. GETTING MORE STUDENT LOANS THAN I NEEDED! – This one is probably the most common! I went to a four-year private Christian college and after learning about my expenses I freaked out! I took out loans to cover expenses because it was hard for me to have a full-time job while taking 18 unit semesters! But I definitely wish I knew how to better manage my income. Counselors told me that some student loans were not bad… but the truth is, any debt is bad… especially if it keeps growing with no end in near!
5. Being in a relationship that did not add to my goals. This one was a hard one for me to admit. It was a blow to my ego to admit that all those years invested in a relationship only left me with a break-up text at the start of my senior year in College, and years of emotional pain and healing after. I was so focused while in college to build a future for that person and myself and I became blinded and it derailed my priorities. I chose to help build up his dreams while at times sabotaging my own. I did not want to hang out with friends because he NEEDED me. Well that is what I thought. I wanted to be Miss Fix It. I learned that someone who does not add to your goals is not an asset or necessity in your life.
Being in college was an amazing journey overall. I met some great friends who have been in my life ever since and I am blessed. When I started college I was very young. I had so many goals for myself but often not enough confidence. I received excellent grades and knew my potential, but I did not take initiative. I settled in my relationship, I settled in my jobs, I settled in my self-worth. I did not realize that I needed to work for my future CAREER and not just for a future job. But like they say, everything seems obvious in hindsight.
I truly hope that some of these tips will help those of you just starting college or thinking about embarking on a journey similar to mine. As always, thank you for reading and I welcome any suggestions and comments. Elenathinkslife